Enter the enthralling world of a Malaysian Indian wedding as we explore the magical wedding day traditions and rituals that end in a marriage of love and joy.
Immerse yourself in the diverse cultural rituals that make this day truly remarkable, from the serious wedding ceremony to the jubilant feasting.
THE WEDDING DAY
The wedding day is divided into two parts: the ceremony and the reception.
WEDDING CELEBRATION
When the bride and groom arrive at the wedding location, they are subjected to a final purification ceremony in front of family and close friends. Following that, the bride and groom exchange garlands (representing love) at least three times, but up to 20 to 30 times. It begins with the bride and groom exchanging garlands, followed by the bride and groom’s parents and close relatives. It’s easy to see why large families cause the garland exchange to appear endless!
Following the garland exchange, the Vivaha Homa is done, which involves the lighting of a sacred fire. To indicate acceptance of one another, the groom ties a thali (which has been blessed by the attending guests) on his bride. The couple then performs the Sapta Padi, in which they circle the sacred fire seven times, each step representing a separate pledge. The marriage is sealed once the entire rite is completed.
The ceremony is (In true Indian fashion) followed by a big feast. Traditionally, the feast begins with a pinch of salt (to represent a healthy marriage), is followed by a banana leaf feast, and concludes with sweet desserts such as Payasam or Laddoo (for a sweet start). Although this is tradition, more and more modern weddings are foregoing the banana leaf feast in favor of a large buffet-style supper.
Wedding ceremony traditions:
Upon entering, you will be sprayed with rose water. Don’t be alarmed—it’s a good thing.
Bring snacks—feasts begin only after the wedding ceremony (which is not a short ordeal). If you’re prone to low blood pressure or hangry episodes, a snack will keep you calm (however once the feast begins, brace yourself for gluttony!)
WEDDING RECEPTION
Depending on the couple, this can happen on the wedding day itself or in the days or weeks following. While the ceremony is typically held in a temple, the reception is typically held in a hotel ballroom, community hall, or similar location. This ceremony includes yet another lavish feast, an opportunity to mingle, and, of course, a dancing floor. Simply put, have the fun of your life! It’s a spectacular celebration of the newlyweds and a wonderful way to express your congratulations.
Customs of the wedding reception
- Do not bring unexpected guests, especially if there is a seating plan.
- Like at Malay and Chinese weddings, there are typically no gifts at an Indian wedding—instead, gift money to the newlyweds in an embroidered packet (or regular envelope).
- The monetary gift is set at a minimum of RM51. This may seem like a curiously specific number, but according to custom the value of your monetary gift may not be an even number nor can it have a zero in it (it’s considered bad luck).
- Before leaving, be sure to say goodbye to all the elders, but especially the parents of the bride and groom.
- Remember to compliment the bride’s parents on the food and the decorations! They’ll be looking forward to hearing it.